Longer then we thought...

Ok I get it People don't tell me things that they don't know there self. Lol Its funny actually thinking about some of this stuff. Hum....I wonder if it is actually true. Is it true that of what I am thinking about? Dose my lawyer not actually know what the steps are in the immigration process. Is this a test it out and see if he is right type of thing? Really? There are so many things that point to it that he might just be going threw what steps he has heard of over the years and that he has not made it all the way threw the process to actually know how it works.

So my lawyer has been telling me since the last interview that Rogelio had that this is what is going to go on. So last interview Was October 27th,2009 since then he said that we need according to the paper. Some things that we have to fill out and file with the wavier. Then some legal documents. OK check got all that. Then the letter from my self saying how I am doing and what has gone wrong and problems and so on since Rogelio has been gone. Ok check got that. The lawyer did help me write some more things in there witch I think was fine, I needed him to help me with it so he can reword things to actually sound like I meant it. My words are not as easy to say for myself. So all that has been sent to Ecuador and is in Rogelio's hands.

Well so far so good right? Yeah right! Rogelio found out that he needed a diff rent birth Certificate. ( In Ecuador there is two types) so he got that taken care of. Then he had to get that translated into English and get Prof that he has no police Record in Ecuador. Ok he got that He just needs to Translate it. Then Tomorrow he will be calling to make a interview. Sounds good right?

Nope! Here to find out he is not setting up his 2nd interview. He is actually setting up a date that he can turn in his papers for his wavier and to file it. Um....ok the lawyer did not say it like that he said that we are setting up our 2nd interview when he calls. Nope the lawyer was wrong yet again! So what Rogelio dose is turns in the papers when the guy tells him to come in then waits for the papers to be looked over and approved and then he will get an interview date. He will go to the interview and when its approved he will be able to come home, sounds easy but, when you get your hopes up so much that he is going to be home asap and you leave out the step that's not right. Do you know what you are doing lawyer? hum... Makes you think.

On a good note...things will go on and we just need to keep moving and not let things stop us. I just can't wait Intel he is back here in my arms and we are once more a family together! Rogelio is the reason I live he is my life my everything. I can't wait in tell his return to us! Please pray that we will be together soon!!! Love you all hope to talk to you soon:)

So....

I had the meeting with the lawyer and finished everything that we needed to finish on wed so we are just waiting now for Rogelio to make the interview appointment and then we will know the time frame He will be returning! I really hope that its before Christmas! Please pray for us that it will be before Christmas! I hope everything works out just fine and we don't have to be in pain anymore! I will keep you guys updated!

Waiting......

So I was to call the office of my lawyer today in the morning to make a appointment for this week. Um yeah I knew what they were going to say when I called....no appointments! So I called to see if I was right.....Yep! I was right...They said that he has no appointments Intel Monday the 16th! Um yeah that is not right seems odd! So the women who picked up the phone I told her that the lawyer sent me a e-mail saying on a certain day he wanted to meet and the day was wide open! So she said give her a hour and she will talk to him about it. Hum......Lets see what is going to happen. Today marks the two weeks that we have been waiting on the lawyer since Rogelio's interview! gezzzzzz seems that we are always waiting on the lawyer for something....like I said before he has way to many clients to handle. Note to all lawyers don't take on cases if you already have way too many! All people should get things done asap! Thats why they pay you so much money!

Another note....Antonio I think is going to lose another tooth its very loose! Also Miguel hit his front tooth on Friday on a table and we went to the dentist and he said he thinks it will be fine hes about 90% sure. It just looks different then it did before. It gave him alot of pain at first but not it seems to have no pain for him. Miguel is VERY active and never stops as I am writing this he is yelling Hyden is at the door...( hes not) he is a kid who lives by us. Lol

Rogelio told me last night that he has been riding a motorcycle with his cousin! I totally freaked out because I don't want him to get hurt. I am not there and it scares me since the streets down there are dirt! Rogelio has always wanted one but I don't want him to get hurt. He said he is learning how to drive one, that scares me. I told him he needs to ride a 4 Wheeler! It seems safer then a motorcycle! Church is right next to his house and they are so loud!! It gets so hard to hear Rogelio when church is going on.

Oh yeah almost forgot! Last night Rogelio told me that he got this paper delivered to his house on Friday! The paper is from the U.S. saying he has a interview on Oct 27th, 2009! LOl hello it was past the date like almost by two weeks. Rogelio open it and told the guy hello do you see the date on this? What a stupid guy to deliver the notice almost 2 weeks late! Thank God Rogelio has me keeping on top of things! Lol ( I thought it was super funny) At least it shows how things run down there. Also How did they find Rogelio? That's the big question...We only told them a city and a phone number to his cell. There are no addresses! Odd. Any who I am sure I will write later to tell you if we did get a appointment this week or what we decided to do.

I Can't wait for a week!!!

So on Friday we were suppose to have a appointment with our Lawyer at his office, but he cancelled it. He said that he was in court and could not make it to our appointment. I hate when he cancelled or says things that he dose not do. The main problem is that he has to many clients and he dose not take good care of them or be there when he is suppose to. That is what upsets me alot. I don't understand when people don't take me as important as the other clients. I hired you to do a job and expected it to be done asap. Not wait two weeks then have appointment. In my eyes that is not fair.

I wish that I had all the money in the world so I could pay for a better lawyer that actually gets my things done on time. I know I am always complaining about something. I am just an unhappy person right now with the things that go on. I am happy that the interview went well but, not happy with the lawyer. I think that I deserve more respect.

So anyways on another note, Rogelio had to get his birth certificate and police record again so he did and he got it fast this time witch is good. It only took 2 days last time it was more then 2 weeks!. Rogelio went fishing with his family the other day, he caught alot of fish. He says that he wishes that he could take some fish home here with him from Ecuador. ( he can't) I have seen people ship fish here from Ecuador before but it did not look so good and it was with dry ice. Lol.

So holidays in Ecuador last more then 2 days there. Like last week it was Oct 31-Nov 4th! That means that police and government places were closed! I thought a day was alot to be closed! but 5 days is alot! Rogelio says that he thinks it's people wanting to party and that's why they have it that way, lol in other words he has no clue why they are closed so long.

So I want to go to Ecuador! I feel like it has been so long since I have been able to see Rogelio and I can't wait any longer!! So if money starts falling out of the sky I will be going to Ecuador lol. Rogelio has been having a hard time with it too, but I think that I am having a harder time with it. Being stuck in the house with not much to talk about but school work or playing with Antonio and Miguel is good only so long!:(

Miguel! Wow is he a wild one! He has gotten even wilder since he turned 2! He never stops! he goes and goes I want to take the battery's out but there is none!! Can someone invent a thing to make the kid sit down for a min? gezzzzzzzzz makes so so tired and crazy at times. It is very hard to raise two kids alone! I don't know how single moms do it! Well kids are into things so gotta go talk to you all later:)

What do I do?

So Rogelio Had his Immigration Interview In Ecuador on the 27th of October. They gave him a list of things to get and come back and make another interview appointment after he gathered all the papers. Sounds easy right? Well......

When you have certain people dealing with your case that in my opion don't know everything they are doing. You have the Wait for one- two weeks before anything gets done. No I am not happy with that! When the United States Consulate General In Ecuador tells us to do something and do it asap or you are going to wait a longer time. Guess what I want to listen to them. They are the people I am going to listen to. Just like When someone mixed up things ( not to name names) and only because I Myself took it to investigate you know like being a lawyer myself to find out that there was a form that was not filed and because a certain someone was supposed to file it and did not we waited a extra year almost. wow that sounds like huge oops # 1 well actually #2 #1 was actually hiring someone who dose not know how to do there full job.

So anyways I just need to know what forms were filed with the United states consulate General in Ecuador and where my sons birth cert is???? Um yeah that's another thing that was supposed to be in the things that Rogelio had but ummm someone ( not naming names) forgot to put in there or lost it. Yah sort of a big deal when head person at USCG asks you where it is and looks threw your papers with your husband 2 times and dose not find it. Yeah I would say that's also a big deal! Grrrr Really I can't believe all the messed up stuff happens to us. I only want people to do the jobs they were hired and paid to do and do it!!!!! GRRRRR really? Sorry I am just so upset...OK I am back to work on trying to get things done myself since other people don't do their job. Talk to you guys soon:) Pray for us Please all I want Is Rogelio back home!

update on things......

So here I am waiting for Monday to come. I feel like things are getting to the point of Rogelio finally being able to come home. Rogelio and I feel like we can start planning things. We are sort of waiting Intel he has his interview at the end of October, then we will know when his next interview will be and when He gets approved for his 2nd interview he will be able to come home within a week. There is a slim chance that he might not get approved but we are not considering that at all, there is no reason that he would not get approved.

So there for I can't wait Intel the first interview is done with because I will know more of what is going to happen next. At least we have the package off and its on the way to Ecuador. I will feel safe when it is in Rogelio's hands.

My parents can't wait Intel we are able to move out, also Intel Rogelio, myself and the children are together again. It has been very hard to deal with everything without Rogelio here. I know that when he comes home I will feel like a million pounds have been lifted off of me. I can't wait!! Please pray that he will be able to return for Christmas or better yet my birthday! That would be the best birthday gift ever!!!!!!

I Pray

So I am going to Pray that everything gets to Ecuador in time for the interview and that there is no lost packages along the way. Grr.....Sometimes people make me so upset when they don't know how to handle things in the way that they are exposed to be handled. I am only going to say that. Most of you will know what I am talking about.

I am not really nerves for the interview that Rogelio has in Ecuador because all he has to due is tell the truth and be completely honest with the people try to be him self, but he is nerves because hes like what if there is a question I don't know? I told him there wont be and if there is just tell them I don't know. Our lawyer said its all about our lives and questions about us. That can't be that hard its just the stress of being in the environment of being drilled with questions being in the hot seat. See if I was on the other end I think I would be more nerves. The only thing I am nerves is about the package getting there on time and him getting to the interview on time. I almost want him to sleep outside the place to make sure he is there.

I just pray everything goes fine. Also I pray that they will give him the 2nd interview right then and take the wavier right then also. Gezzzzzzzzzzzz that would be my dream come true because then Rogelio could come home within two weeks.

Updates on us here at home, well we have been sick for like a week now and to many doctor apts. It is very hard to take care of two sick boys when you are sick your self. Thank god for my parents being around and helping so much.

I wish Rogelio was here to help me that's who I want help from. My love my husband my life. I want him back so bad. I hope it is sooner then later. Please pray for us. talk to you guys soon:)

I Can't wait for the end of October

So as I told you guys before at the end of October is Rogelio's 1st interview! Yay! I can't wait. I feel like that kid that finally got taken to the candy store and couldn't eat the candy Intel she was good. Well I can almost taste that candy:)

I hopefully will find out then when his next interview is and when they think that he will be able to come back home to us. Finally then I will not feel like my life is on hold. Waiting for it to start.
Rogelio said that he feels like we are getting closer too. Like it's almost here he can almost taste it but not quite yet.

Rogelio and I have not been on web cam lately, We are going to cam this week sometime. I get so happy when we finally get to cam because its like going on a date well sort of. LOl with your kids and all.:) Hey I even put on makeup and going out clothes some of the time. lol I am so crazy . I just want to make sure that I look good looking for him. I don't want him to see me looking crappy and be like yeah ok thanks for changing out of your pj's for me lol. I don't want him to see me down for him to see me sad or not looking good.

I don't want him to know that its like that at all. I want to make everything look fine for him so that he is not down about things and feeling bad. I hate to see him sad or down and why make two of us bad and sad and down? He already gets into his down times why make more for him. I just want him to be happy. I see that it is a lot harder for him to be away from us. His family here and us as family his two sons and wife. For us we are just away from him. I mean sure I miss his family and Marcelo because Marcelo and I used to be best friends but It is nothing compared to missing my love of my life. My heart my world. Someone I would give up everything for. I love Rogelio more then life it self.

The only thing that keeps me alive and more motivated to get him back here is our love, How much I can't live without him but will for a small amount of time that is needed to be able to get him back in my arms.

So the other day I told Antonio that If papi dose not come back soon we will have to go and see him.Lol well He thought that I said that we where going to see Rogelio and started packing....I asked him what he was doing and he said he is trying to pick what toys he was going to take to Ecuador with us....He had already picked his books he was going to take with....then I asked him when he was planing on going and he said well mama you said we were going soon. I had to explain to him what I meant by it. I felt so bad. I really have to watch what words I say when I am talking to a 6 year old. He was upset need less to say but He got over it when I made him some ice cream and got his mind off of things.

Some times I feel like I am always changing the subject with my sons. I do do it on purpose because I don't always feel like talking about Rogelio and all that because it still gets me down and puts me in not always a good mood. Makes me sad that I can't do anything right now to get him back here this min and no matter what the kids say to me or to Rogelio we can't do anything its so hard makes me want to cry.

Rogelio is my life my love my everything I really can't wait Intel he is able to be here with us all. For us to start living. Love you all talk to you later.

You never see how crazy things get intel you step back

So Life for us as a family is so crazy there is way too many things that is going on right now and that need to be done right now. We need to step back and look at the situation that we are in and what we need to do first and what is the most important.

I can admit sometimes I do put things off but I have not been putting things off for a long time I usually do them right away so I can just get them done and over with. The only thing is getting ready for the Immigration interview is something like having a job. It is a job alone having to get everything together for it. Dam I wish that Rogelio was here to do some of the work instead right now Rogelio just went to church with his family and he now is playing volleyball with the family and then he is going to go fishing with his family. Grrr....sometimes I think dam cant you just tell me honey I am at home bored nothing to do I am working or something other then all the fun stuff you are doing with your family today!!

I know that he means no harm and alot of the time he dose just sit at home or he dose some extra work on the house or cleans or helps his brothers he dose not go out and actually have fun that often but when I do hear he is having fun I am happy for him at least he is not at home being depressed or anything like that but I am also jealous that I can't be doing that. Also that we can't be doing that together.

My favorite thing to do right now to make time pass after I do all the immigration things for the day that I can and are able to do. I read to Antonio and work with him for some of his school stuff because he has been behind in school because he has missed so much school because he is sick so often. That means working with him more then other children usually work with there parents. Some people think oh you need to work with Antonio hours and hours every day! Sorry people that is not how it works. You know that the people saying that do not have children or they don't have more then one.

If you have two or more children you know what I am talking about. Having another child and someone who is younger and dose not understand hey don't bother us right now we are trying to learn. I will play with you later to tell a 2 year old that is crazy. lol they don't listen. I have nothing aginst him for not listening there is nothing wrong with that he is too young to understand all that. He wants attention also. Sure work with your son well the other ones taking a nap. Lets see I can do that no problem, but that he takes no more than 30 min's for a nap and during that time usually I get a chance to sit down and not be running around or cleaning up after everything he gets into. Oh ok so you say wait Intel he goes to sleep ok, sure that will work.....most the time Antonio falls asleep during the time I am trying to put Miguel to sleep. When I try and wake him up he gets so mad and dose not want to get up at all.So there for that never works. So I am only normal I do what I can when I can.

So anyways I love Rogelio and we called him today and talked to him Rogelio and I told Antonio together that he might come home soon. Antonio seemed really happy and is trying to plan things for when Rogelio gets back. Love you all send your prayers to Rogelio and I. I hope you are all doing well:) Intel next time.

Our 6 Year old is sick agian....

So there has been many help problems that came along with our oldest son since Rogelio has been in Ecuador. Now he got his coughing back and runny nose. He is not sleeping that well at night because he is up sneezing and coughing all night. So there for I am not sleeping and our younger boy is also waking up once and a while. There are other nights before last week that our older son was so hard to wake up at all in less it was 6am or later.

So yesterday we were to the doctors trying to figure out things. All they had to say at that place was lets change his medication that he is on. Witch we have already done that many times and that dose not work, I figured ok we will try it one more time. So then last night he was coughing and up so much in the middle of the night. I sent him to school and school called and said he can't be there because he is coughing so much and sneezing. So I had to go pick him up from school.

I ended up calling a nurse line and talking to them and they said that they thought maybe he should be seen at the mayo clinic. If we are not happy with what are doctors are saying. I made a appointment at our asthma & allergies specialist doctor. ( A different one from yesterday at a different place also We go to a few different doctors for Antonio different specialists.) They were able to get us in right away. We got checked out over there the doctor said he did not think that this had to do with his asthma or allergies and refered him to a lung specialist ( yay just what I wanted another doctor to add on our list!) so we are going to try him out and see what happens. They don't have appointments for 2 months but my doctor is going to call me back and see if they can get me something sooner.

This is one of the bigger times that I wish Rogelio was here because he could help with all of this, also Antonio needs his dad here to be able to care for him. There are so many times Antonio tells me how much he wants Rogelio here and he dose not want me. It makes me feel so bad but I try to understand it is just that he misses his father. I do to. I miss him so much All I want is for him to come back and us to be a family again. I hate this hole waiting game.

I still can't wait Intel October well the end of it when I will find out what is going to go on with Rogelio. We need him home asap. Please GOD help us. Anyone who reads this please pray for us to be able to have Rogelio come home to us very soon.:) Love ya all talk to you soon. Thanks for reading small pcs of our life:)

Wow This is a lot to get together!!

So I have to get together all the paper work and things for Rogelio's two interviews and the wavier. It is so much work there is so much that I have to get together!! It is never ending!! So I got back from Vacation with the family on sat, it was fun being with the family. The only hard thing was everyone had someone. My brother, My sisters and my parents all have there partners. So that left me hanging out with my kids most the time.

I felt like I couldn't do anything as a couple with anyone....why? Well because Rogelio is not here. I felt like I was trying to intrude on people when I wanted to hang out. I know my family did not feel that way because they are always trying to do things with me too. Not like there was all couple times alone or anything it just felt like that to me, because it is hard for me to see people with there other half's and me not with mine.

Any who vacation was fun with the family kids are a bit crazy but what do I say they are mine and Rogelios kids they parable get it from us:) Antonio started school he loves it 1st graders are 6 years old Mom I can do things alone. MOM I AM 6 YEARS OLD!!!! My son yells at me sort of like saying hello I can do things alone now give me some space!! lol it was funny cute and sort of scary:( He is growing up so fast!!

I don't want my kids to grow up, I want time to frez just in tell Rogelio gets home then it can start again, but not too fast I want it to go slow after he comes home. I got to talk to Rogelio one time at the cabin but then I ran out of calling cards. I need to go buy some more. They are so much money because they add up to be alot! I can't wait intel he is home!!!! There is alot of work to get together but it is way worth it, I would do it 100 times over if I had to just to get him back here and in our arms!

Rogelio is doing ok right now no one is sick, he is trying to cut down some bushes by the house so he can have some what of a yard.

Sometimes I wonder if anyone even reads this, lol....any who Intel next time talk to you guys later.:)

YES YES YES!!! I AM SO HAPPY!!

So as some of you guys know because I called you today, Rogelio got his first interview!!!!!! Yay!!! I am so Happy!! So the case was supposed to be at the National Visa Center for like 3 months and then they are supposed to send it to the us embassy/ councelet of Ecuador and then have it there for like a month and then call us and tell us there is a interview. Well they did it all super fast!!! We have the interview well the 1st one around the end of October!!!

I know October sounds like so far away but at least its made!!! there is a set date for it I am happy! Now all I have to do is get a million and two things ready for the interview so I can give it to our lawyer and then send it down to Ecuador asap! It is a lot of work but totally worth it to be able to have My love of my life come home!!!! I can't wait!!! I am soooo happy right now! I just hope that the wavier goes fast or that they take the wavier at the interview! the first one at least! That would be a dream come true because then things would go even faster!!

Please God have Rogelio come home before Christmas! That would be a great Birthday/ Christmas Gift ever!!! That's all I want. I hope its really soon! I hope everything goes good with the first interview and then the wavier and then the 2nd interview!! My lawyer says that the wavier is the harder part. I just pray everything will go fine with that! OK well better get back to work and gathering things for the interview just had to tell you guys how happy I was to find that out.:) I will write again soon:)

My 6 year old tells everyone everything:)

So Last weekend we went to some garage sales with my mom. My mom had went out before we had even gotten up in the morning and was to a few when I got up we called my mom and asked where she was, my mom came and picked us up and we went out to a few around the area. Garage sales are always great when you find good deals:) There was a sale that I wanted to check out but my mom had already been there. She decided to stay in the car well Antonio and I went to the sale.

Antonio and I went in and started looking around. Then Antonio of coarse asked if he could pet the dog and started talking about his dog that he has. I asked Antonio to pick out some books that were there for only .25 cents! That's a deal! After he picked out the books the women tryed to interest him in other things I told him no we don't have money for all that we are just going to get the books and then he started telling the women how he had to save money and how the bad people took his papi away and he needs to save all the money he can to get him back from Ecuador. Kept going on and on about the bad people and how his papi is in Ecuador and he can't come back Intel he gets a lot of money and how we need to visit him and everything. I did not want to be rude and interrupt so I just let him talk. When he was done we went to the car and then he seemed pleased that he talked to the girl about his papi.

I think that some people have no clue what he is talking about when he talks about Rogelio because they don't understand that he was not legal here and the situation that we are in. Sometimes I just don't feel like explaining it in person to people. Especially people that we meet at a garage sale. Antonios so cute! This week sometime I am going to go on cam with Rogelio again! Yay can't wait! I used a $5.00 calling card the other day the person at the store told me that it was a good card to call Ecuador cell phones...Um yeah needless to say it gave me like 13 mins and was not a good calling card to call Ecuador cell phones. That's the last time I am going to listen to a American calling card center. I think I will stick to people that are Latino and know about calling to other country's. The only reason I got that one is because they were out of mine that I always buy.

I will have to tell the people to stock up more on my calling cards to Ecuador because I will buy them:) Intel later you guys take care thanks for reading my blog. Feel free to leave a comment:)

My 6 year old in pain without his dad!

So the last few days I have not been online we have been helping some people do some things and just been cleaning and so on. My 6 year old has been in and out of sperts this week. He has been asking a lot about Rogelio and when he is coming back. He said that he is sad that his dad can not be here and then gets mad at me. Sometimes it makes me feel so bad that hes so mad and sad at the same time. Other times I try and blow it off that he takes a lot of it out on me. I know that he is in pain too and it is just not me being the only one who suffers because Rogelio can't be here right now its him also. It is just so hard to blow things off when he says things like that but I need to because he dose not understand fully everything that we are going threw and that it is not my fault. It is still hard. Sometimes my words don't come out as well as I can feel them so bare with me:)

Rogelio feels helpless as he sits in Ecuador not being able to do anything about the problems that our older son is having. He wishes that he could do something but he is not able to. I feel like there is nothing else that I can do but be there for him and show him that we love him and care for him. I have told him many times that Rogelio is going to be able to come home it is just going to take some time. He says a lot I wish papi was here he would let me do this or that. Or sometimes he will say I wish papi was here he would go fishing with me.

For all of you out there that know how hard this is...omg taking a 6 year old fishing is not a problem. When he is allergic to the fish it becomes a problem having to keep looking at him to make sure he is not going to brake out or anything and then on top of helping your 6 year old having to watch and hold your 2 year old that dose not want to be held and just wants to jump in the water or run the other way is hard! My 2 year old is one wild boy:) I did not say its a bad thing its just a lot to take care of both of them when one is fishing. I wish that I was able to take Antonio out alone and take him places but its hard when you don't have anyone to care for your other son and even if someone says that they will watch him I know its going to be a lot to watch him since he is so wild and gets into everything.

I love my sons and I would not change anything about them ever. They are who they are and I love that.I am a great mother and wife and I love my family. I just can't wait in tell Rogelio is able to come home to be able to live our lives together with our two sons and our family. Please pray that he will be able to come home soon and that Antonio mostly will not have to suffer from his papi being gone anymore. In tell next time talk to you guys later:)

Rogelio's Sad:(

So I saw Rogelio on web cam on sat! Yay! That made me happy to see him again on cam:) The boys were happy to see there father too! Rogelio was Really sad though, he said that times are hard without us there and without us all together. His brother moved out so he is alone living there. He said it makes him miss us even more. Rogelio said that everyday for him seems to be sooo long and never ending. When he is just wishing the days would go by faster so he is that much closer to getting to be back together with us. Sometimes that happens to me too seems like the days go by slow, when I just want it to be the next day and Rogelio and I can be together again.

Rogelio told me that once he gets his green card he will be on the next plane that is available to take. He said he dose not want to waste anytime for anything. He said even if he dose not have time to pack all of his things he will just leave them and come home as fast as he can. It is the most pain full thing being away from him. I sure it is more pain full for Rogelio to be away from The children and me. At least I can see our kids and be here with our kids where he is alone. Sure he has his family down there but it is not the same. Sometimes I forget how much harder it is that he has it then I do.

Rogelio said that everyone in our family in Ecuador is doing good right now. No one is sick at this time. That is so good seems like someone is always sick. Rogelio has not got a cold for a few weeks now and that's good too:) I am still looking for a way for us to get down to Ecuador hopefully soon we will find a way.

The 3 L's

Long Lasting Love....That's what I call Rogelio and my relationship:) No matter how many times we have disagreements or how long we are apart we will always love each other no matter what. When Rogelio and I first got together I knew that we would be together for the rest of our lives no matter what. Guess what I was right! No matter how long they make us be apart or how much it hurts us both....we both have eyes only for each other. Are love is Lasting love. I will love him no matter what.



Rogelio is going to go on web cam this weekend YAY!!! Thanks to my parents:) My parents are the best! No matter how many times we disagree on things and no matter how mad I make them or they make me, they will always be there for Rogelio and I. They are great parents! Without my parents here threw this all I don't know what I would do. They have helped me so much and been there for me. I love them and appreciate how much they have done for me so much. Words don't describe how much I appreciate it all that they have done for Rogelio and I. Oh I can't forget how much they have also done for Our sons:)



My father has always been there for Miguel as a male figure. When Rogelio comes back I know that Miguel will miss him the most. My father said that Miguel reminds him of himself when he was younger. Miguel also has a lot of my fathers features. He is skinny and taller with a longer face like my father.

My brother in Law has been there also for Antonio since Rogelio has been gone as a male figure he plays with Antonio and makes sure that he feels special. My brother in law has and will be there for Antonio just like Rogelio would be if he was here. The love I see My brother in law has for Antonio is great and well appreciated by Rogelio and I. When ever Antonio and my brother in law are together I know they are having a fun time.

Grrrrrrr Makes Me want to cry!

Grrrr somethings that I just can't do because Rogelio is not here....Sometimes I can't take care of my own health! It drives me crazy! I want to go to the doctor for me. I am sick and I don't know whats wrong...but going to the doctor most likely is going to tell me whats wrong and how I can get better. Yeah sounds pretty easy right? Yeah not for me. Every time I want to go to the doctor for myself I have to get someone to watch my children. Witch no one wants to. Then when someone actually wants to then alot of the times they don't show up or just say sorry I'm sick or grrrrr too bizzy today. Also I always feel even worst going to the doctor because its always so hard for anyone to watch my kids and causes tuns of stress in other peoples life.

See if Rogelio was here he could watch the kids and I wouldn't have to feel so bad or wait a month to go to the doctor. Rogelio always went with me to the doctor it was a family thing. We never went alone. Who ever saw the doctor the other person watched the kids at the doctors office.

I think its so hard and wrong that I feel that way just to be able to go to the doctor. It frustrates me so much and makes me sad and angry at the same time! I always think why can't Rogelio be here why can't he be the one helping me. For you people out there that have a closed mind this is not something to say to me EVER!! " you know there are alot of single moms out there if they can do it you can do it alone too" NO!!!!!! Trust me its not the same at all!!! People listen....put your self in my shoes! Those people who are single moms choice that life most of the time. They put there self in that spot. They can choice to not be a single mom also. They can always find someone!

Me I can't find someone because I already have my someone! Rogelio is the one and only love in my life. The only person that I want to be with for the rest of my life. The father of my two boys. My other half. So where dose that leave me right now? In limbo hes not here our relationship is over the phone and on the computer. Sure dose not seem like much but we don't have a choice to make it different we have to go threw the process of the immigration system. I am in so much pain knowing he is not here not having him here is like a knife in my heart! Sometimes you can't breath sometimes you just cry. Its hard. You are stuck in one spot and can't move. Rogelio and My life always went fwwd intel all of this.

Life is so hard but as Rogelio and I always say someone always has it harder then us.

Living Life One Phone Call At A Time...

Last night I got to talk to Rogelio after not talking to him for a few days because I can not afford calling cards. We got to talk for a hole 8 Mins!! $2.00 calling card. I need to find other calling cards that last for more Mins. I have tryed many calling cards but they are all about the same. The only difference is some calling cards charge you a min even if they don't pick up and others don't charge you.

Rogelio said that his brother is still gone to another city working because his town dose not really have jobs right now. He will return in a month or two when that work is finished. How alot of work goe's down there is do the job intel its done then it stops and you have to find another job intel they start that job agian. Some people decide not to hire you back on others say come back in a few months. So inless you have your own business or you work for a family company its harder to have a steady job.

So he has been eating fish that he catches and rice almost everyday because right now I don't have more money to send him. He will change that at the end of the month. I asked him to go on web cam but he is not able to due to the fact he needs money to go on. He said he has $1.00 left but he is going to buy eggs tommw and get some yucas from his brother so he can eat something different. He also trys to eat over at his family's alot because foods so expensive when you have nothing.

When ever someone invites him to eat he gets so happy because that's food he gets to have that is not fish or rice. Don't get me wrong Rogelio LOVES FISH! I think that he would live at the river or lake if he could:)

I had a dream last night. It was that Rogelio had just showed back up at our house and that he was finally home! Oh man how good did that feel I thought I was in heaven!! It felt so real!!!! He told me that everything was ok now and that he is able to be here. Then for some reason we all decides to go back to Ecuador all of my main family! so We had to get a same day ticket but Rogelio and I had to drive to FL. So on our way down there he told me we have to sneak across the border....I was like why? Then he told me that he was really not supposed to be here and he snuck across!! I was like omg NO!!!! Rogelio why did you do that? I thought it felt so real then I woke up, it was good that I was just dreaming but it was also too bad. I was finally happy but then sad. I never would want him to sneak anywhere for me. I just want to go by the law and make sure everything done the right way! But still felt good that he was finally home:(

before I knew it our 8 mins on our call was up and I had to say goodnight and goodbye!:( I hate saying that to him on the phone and I hate saying goodbye. I wish I could say see you later or something else but it drives me crazy. Tommw I will call him again and talk for another hole 8 mins! Not a day goe's by that I don't wish he was home!! People in the National Visa Center and the Department of State in Ecuador need to work fast!!

Feels like it has been forever since I saw you!

So the other day I saw Rogelio on web cam. We always chat on web cam since he has been gone. He shaved his mustache!!! He looks so different! He said that he looks younger. I said that I rather see him with a mustache! Then after the 2nd time we web camed together and I saw it the lights at Cyber were on more and he was not wearing a hat. He looked totally good. I think I like him not having a mustache anymore:)

Geazzzz Lighting dose make a difference! I can't wait intel we are able to go down to Ecuador to see him! Seems like its been forever. My oldest son wet his bed last night then when I asked him why he wet his bed he said I don't know, but mom when papi comes back I will not wet my bed anymore.

My older son was fully potty trained before Rogelio left to Ecuador then he started having problems, when we took him to the doctor to talk about it the doctor said it has alot to do with Rogelio being gone. When we were in Ecuador he did not wet the bed or have a accident except for one time! That was such a shock! I know it has alot to do with Rogelio not being here:( Makes me sad:(

My older child still can't wait for his papi to come home he keeps saving his money to get plane tickets he is one determined child:)

Missing out on life...

So today is a BBQ at my family's house. I can't go because of my surgery. It is so hard to sit down and drive a long way. I wish that Rogelio was here because he would be able to drive up there. Seems like we miss out on alot because Rogelio is not around.

Gosh I wish comcast had a calling plan for Ecuador calls to a cell phone! Grrrr just because Rogelio has a cell phone not a home phone the phone bill is so high and phone cards are so much money!! Dear Comcast get a plan for cell phones!!!

My son is sad because his papi is not here yet!

So my 6 year old and I went to the doctor today, after our doctors appointment he asks me why is papi not here yet? Why can't we go pick him up? Then he said I saw on t.v. that he can fly when he wants to come places. I told my son...that's not how it works with papi we have to wait and go threw the immigration system because papi dose not have papers here. He still dose not understand it all. It is so hard to explain things to a 6 year old he listens to every word and still thinks other things. He yelled at me today saying it was my fault for papi being gone. Sometimes I have not a clue what to do when he gets like this.

I let my 6 year old talk on the phone with his papi but he never wants to get off the phone. I can't wait intel Rogelio is able to come back home to us. It is making us have so many problems and depression with everything. I wish there was just something you could say or do that would make him come back asap! If anyone knows how to do that, it would be great.

My younger son knows who his papi is and every time he sees his picture he says PAPI!!! Sometimes he even says I wannna papi! He is starting to understand everything.....Still can't wait intel he gets to come home. Seems like its been forever!

I wish that it was what I wanted to hear not what I heard.

So I went to my Lawyers office today with my mom well my father watched my kids. Our lawyer told us some good news being that he mailed our last papers to the National Visa Center witch I am totally happy that its actually on the way there. We had to pay our lawyer $100.00 to translate some of the papers that we gathered from Rogelio since they needed to all be in English.

So what happen today was I was going to the lawyers office to talk to him about the next steps in the case. I had wrote him a e-mail after I got to him the last papers and he told me that we needed to meet to talk about all of the next steps and so forth. I still think that we could have talked over the phone. It is hard to go out there because its in Minneapolis and right off of 35W.
Anyways here is what he told me that's going to go on.

When the National Visa Center receives our paper work that we sent to them they will open it and look it over and make sure everything on the forms are there and correct. Then we will get a letter saying that it is being fwd to the Department Of State. That process alone our lawyer said will take between 60-90 Days! That's such a long time!! I hoped he would be back by then!

Then when the Department of state will contact us and say that they got the file and they will schedule a interview. It will take about 30 days from when they get the file to schedule a interview.

They will have the interview within a month of us getting the notice.

Our Lawyer says that the first interview will be declined. The first interview is proving that our marriage is valid and that we have still been having a relationship even though he is over there and I am up here. The only reason the first interview is declined is because Rogelio was in the U.S.A. more then a year with out a visa.

At the first interview they will ask for a wavier to be filed, once the wavier is filed ( that waves the 10 year bar he has on him) then they will schedule another interview witch will take 2-6 months!!!!!!!!

The 2nd Interview is proving hardship I am sorry Extreme hardship not just any hardship but it has to be extreme hardship! That's totally what we have been going threw the 562 Days that hes been gone! They ask him tuns of questions at the interviews too.

Then if he passes the interviews then he gets to come back. Our lawyer said at the interview they usually will give him that same day a stamp sticker that goes on his passport and then he can come home within a week. He said sometimes it takes them a week to get the stamp sticker but still that part sounds good!

Our lawyer also said that he dose not see them denies the case but if they do there is options such as file a new wavier and reapply witch is a year and a half wait!!

I doubt that he will be denied because I think that we have enof Prof that we are in a real relationship and we really do love each other. So I am not worried about that at all. Our lawyer is not also.

I asked our lawyer today if there was anything else that we can do to speed things up and he said no. He also did say if there was anything that he finds that he can do to speed things up he will. So I just know what that means. I will have to take it upon myself to find a way some how to get Rogelio back here faster. OR someone to help speed up the process. If anyone has any ideas at all feel free to tell me any of them.

I love to hear from everyone and any questions you have its fine to ask.Rogelio Really misses everyone back home here and can't wait to come back. We have been web caming more then normal latly its been nice. I can't wait to be able to go back to see him down there. Any donations? Lol I will take all:) I wish that it was like $300.00 per person to go! Or free:) I am going to write on here when ever I have updates or maybe everyday I don't know yet but I thought it would be a great idea of letting others know whats going on with me and my family.

Pray that Rogelio can come back sooner! Love ya all. p.s. if anyones reading this and is going threw the same thing let me know I would love to conpair notes:)

Ecuador Day 5-7

So After we got back from shopping we were off to see more family member I met so many people I can't remember all of there names. His family is all nice and accepting of me. I felt like really loved. It is really different to meet Rogelio's family since I have only meet his brother and some cousins before. There was always the want to meet his family but they just live so far away so I am so glad that I went on the trip. I never knew how it was to have another half of my family Intel I went and its great!!

The candy down there they will sell by the peace. It is so cool and very cheap. I did notice though the candy they sell in the bags after you open the candy even if its wrapped it gets hard fast! Very odd. They had many different things in Ecuador. We even got to see the big pig Rogelio ate and got very sick off of because it was displayed in the window. You have to always be carefully what you eat when you are there. All of my friends that were here for a while and then went back to Ecuador have all gotten sick within two weeks of going back because they have to get used to the food again. Even Rogelio got sick the first week that he was down there. He was not used to boiling water then putting it in the re fridge to drink it later. Or boiling most of his food before he cooked it.

You can really tell who in the neighborhood and area don't have money and love you for giving you things. I love the gift of Giving without a return. Because the biggest return is to see how happy the people are when you give something to them when they have nothing. Giving just a bit of something weather it be a small peace of candy or $20.00 they are so happy and the look on there face and the words they say in return is such a gift.

There is this family that lives right next to Rogelio they are dirt poor they even go threw times where they have no food. We where hanging out at Rogelio's on the 6th day and asked them if they wanted to come and play ball in the house with Antonio and his cousin Joal and they where so happy and said yes! They were 3 girls under 10 years old. I went to the store and bought some juice boxes and candy and chips and all the kids shared them they were so happy to get something they were unsure of what to say but they were like are you sure this is alot! I was like yes take it its ok. The look on there faces and how happy they were it was great. Watching them eat and drink it was like they had never at en or drank before. That's what made me happy is to see that they were so happy for something I did what costed me less then $5.00.

Rogelio and I hung out together over the hole trip and meet many of his family members it was so nice and fun being with Rogelio and I wish that I would have been able to take him home with me hopefully soon enof.

One day we went to cuenca, I got so sick that day because of the car ride and Rogelio did not feel good too because he gets car sick too. It was sad we had to have Jonathan sit in the middle of us because both of us need to be by a window. We had a packed car! Lets see there was My Mom, dad the driver,Me,Jonathan,Antonio,Miguel,Rogelio,Monwell,Danyella,Marcello,Carmen,Mary,Monica,
Veronica,Pablo,Fabian so thats what 17 people in a van it was alot. and we left at like 5-6 am! We did not get there Intel like 12-1pm lets just say not driving totaly on roads and threw place's that you think that you are not going to make it. Its Scary!!!! On top of having a bumpy ride!
Jonathan was probley like when am I getting out of this car because I kept wanting to hold Rogelio's hand and we had to reach over him lol it was sad I felt bad for him but We were just big babys!lol We had tuns of fun doing everything I am not going to go into that much more story's because this is getting long but I will skip to the morning we left.

We were planing to have Monwell,Renee,Marcello,Carmen and Danyella go with us to the airport at like 7am but the driver got to our hotel early. He showed up like a hour or more early and said that we had to wake up and go now because the roads where going to close because something was going to go on with the streets I forgot what it was but it was something to do with protesting or something.

So we tyred to call Marcello and Monwell but they did not pick up and then later we found out that marcelo and carmen took a bus to meet us but we were not there because we had to leave and monwells car was not working. It was sad. So we never got to say goodbye to Marcello,Carmen or Danyella.

We drove to the airport the hole time Rogelio and I talking and Crying. It is so hard for me to see him Cry. We got to the airport and checked in and hung out for a while. Rogelio told me that he had to leave because he was scared that the street was going to close that he had to get back to his house. We walked him outside to the taxies and I huged him and kissed him so did the boys and I did not want to let go. Rogelio was crying so bad it was hard to see. That was another thing so hard for me to do. He left in the taxie and we went back inside waited for our plane and went home. Was so sad!! You will never know how hard it is to leave your husband Intel you have been threw what I have been thew. it sucks!!!

Ecuador Day 3-4

So it's the 2nd day that we had been in Ecuador Today it was alot more hot then the other days and its not raining. We got up and got ready to go. I hate checking out of hotel rooms because you have to make sure that you have everything that you came with. Sometimes I feel like I forget things. The van with our driver was waiting outside. We rented the van driver or whatever you want to call him for the hole day. I think that we paid like $120-130 or somthing like that.

We were off after we got everyone into the van. It was a while intel we got to Rogelios house. That was going to be later that we would be getting there. We stoped on the way and on the side of the road they sell fruit. We bought some drinks that was a watermelon drink. Antonio loved it. I bought tuns of diffrent kinds of mangos. Marcelo bought a star fruit it was always his favorite. Jonathan oh yeah I forgot to tell you Jonathan came to the hotel in the morning to meet us there. He go's to school in the city so he desided he couldent wait to meet us and came there after half of school was done. I knew him already because we talk on the computer to eachother.
Super nice. He was alot taller then I thought I felt short agian. lol. I also forgot to tell you when we went to the mall they had those things that kids ride that you pay like .50 cents or .25 cents well they were high speed ones I felt like the kids where going to fly out of them they needed a seat belt at that speed. So anyways back to the fruit Jonathan and I bought a coconut they cut off the tops and put a straw in it to drink it. It was not good to me I rather eat a coconut then drink it, but Rogelio and Antonio drank it so they really liked it.

When we were driving more we saw tuns of diffrent foods growing and passed dole bannahas and other dole products I never knew they made some dole things in Ecuador. We also passed papayas growing. I never knew they were so big. We finally got to La Troncal the city out side Rogelios city. We were going to stay in a hotel there since it was the hotel by his house that wouldent be to far away. The hotel that we were going to rent said that they had a party going on the 2nd to the last day or something like that. That we would be there and it would be loud. So we thought ok lets look for a diffrent hotel. We went looking and found one it was super nice but the roff was leeking and its raining season so yeah um no thank you. lol. So anyways after a while we just ended up going back to the first hotel we were going to stay at and we stayed there. It was $20.00 for Rogelio,Antonio,Miguel and I in one room and it was $25.00 for my parents room because they had hot water in there room.

We put all of our things in the room and checked in and checked out the hotel. They had a water park with water slides and everything and a pool super nice but we never used it because we were doing other things. Then they had a party room upstairs a restorant in the frunt. The food was super good. We ate there almost everynight. The people at the restorant spoke english so it was nice for my parents and me too. So after geting settaled we drove to Rogelio's town.
We first went to his place he lives with Marcelo,Carmen and Danyella. The house is big very big. We went to the 2nd floor( by the way the stairs have no railings and its outside the house.) and that was scarry for me because there was nothing to hold on to.Then I tryed to make it to the 3rd floor I did but it was the getting down that was scarry! Omg! I thought about getting ropes and bunje down the house. I was shaking thankfully Rogelio helped me. Trust me it dose not sound that bad but it is. Lets just say I will never agian go to 3rd floor in the house inless he encloses the stairs.

We could have stayed at Rogelios place but there is no more beds and we wanted to all stay together so there for the reason for the hotel. We then went to walk around we went and meet his brother Monwell yea i know i spelt it wrong. We saw him at work for a secound I have spoke to him over the years on the phone too. He is super nice. We went to Monwells other work and saw Mary my friend Walters sister and she is also Monwells wife. Monwell and Mary have 3 kids Jonathan,Fabian, and kerly. There place is a restorant,pool,scoccer,and much more. Its super nice there. We meet so many people Rogelio has a very large family. I can't remember all of there names. We went to Rennes house and his place has a pond in the back and horses. Oh yeah pigs and other animals. There was just sooo much to see everywere. Hard to remember everything and everyone that we saw. Rene was super nice and his wife was too. They have alot of kids. Pablo who hung out with us alot, then there was loreni,monica ( who I really like and shes such a sweet lil girl) and then there was carina whos married to luis they have a daughter together who is emily. I think that was her name. Carina and luis seem very young but I think that they are almost my age. Everyone was very nice.

After that we went and saw were the web cam is the place I think is called Cyber. It's pritty cool. It is a computer lab. You can buy ice cream and soda and snacks there too. I meet a few of Walter my friends family there since they own Cyber. We walked around and saw diffrent things and talked. It was so fun. It was starting to get late so we desided to call it a night and went back into La troncal and paid the driver and he took off. It was late so we had to find somewere to eat. Thankfully the restorant was open at the hotel. So we ate there. Super good food. Once I find out the name of the place I will tell you. The people there are super nice too. The man spoke to me about when he visited america where he learned his english and how things where. The women talked about many things with me. They were just really nice and eazy to talk to. we spent alot of our nights hanging out eating or waiting for our food so we could bring it back to our room. I liked them and I would love to stay there agian. After we ate we went to our rooms Rogelio once agian stayed up talking amongs other things.lol. The next day we were going to go to Rogelios town agian.

When we woke up I heard something! I was like what is that. I looked at the door and did not see anything so I got up and got closer to where the sound was...OMG theres like a small getko in our room! I screamed for Rogelio to get up and he got him out. He told me they are everywere all the time and they wont hurt us. I was still freaked out what if It would have jumped on me when I was asleep? scarry!

The best feeling is waking up to your husband in the morning! I love that feeling knowing that we were together no matter where we were. I was with him and so happy. The things that alot of people take to be not that important are. Always remember he or she the person you love might not be there one day. Spend your time with them get to know them love them be a good wife or husband.

Waking up and taking a shower with Rogelio well the kids slept was the best. Even though the water was cold it was fine. Rogelio when he was in America took cold showers I always thought it was odd but he was used to it. I still like my hot showers! I had to scrub my shoes since they were full of dirt from walking everywhere I wish that I would have brought more then one pair of tennis shoes next time I will know better.

We desided to go shopping so we met My parents in there room and we were off. We went all over town and saw so many diffrent things.

Ecuador Day 1-2

Ok So I know that I have not written in this blog in a long time. Sorry sometimes I get lost in my own world. So We went to EcuadorYay!! I was so happy there I think mostly Because I was with Rogelio at last. It was a few days shy of being are year mark apart!! It seems like its been more then a year and a half apart right now it feels like 3 years i hate being away from him.

Ecuador was so fun. The first day that we were there we stayed in town Rogelio,Marcelo,Carmen and Danyella met us at the airport. Marcelo is Rogelios brother and Carmen is his wife. Danyella is there daughter. They had the bus to the hotel already there and waiting. When I came out of those doors that lead to all the people waiting for other people that come off flights I was over whelmed with how many people there was waiting for there family memebers and friends. There must have been over a thousand! I did not see Rogelio at first but Miguel sure did he yelled papi! I saw marcelo and he walked right over to me. Rogelio was right next to him then and I almost started crying. Rogelio gave me a big hug and kiss and you could just see how happy we were to be together. Miguel layed his head down on Rogelio and seemed like he relaxed like he had never relaxed before. Antonio gave papi and huge hug and was super happy!

We walked out of the airport into our bus that was going to take us to our hotel. The first thing I noticed is WOW the air is so diffrent here. It really felt like we were in a diffrent country.We got everything in the bus and headed to the hotel. It was night time so we could not see much around us as we were driving it was also raining a bit. We got to the hotel and got inside. WOW there was a casino right there. In the hotel. I was amazed. After checking in the hotel we went up to the rooms the big thing was how to use the elevator. They need a instrustion book for that thing. The keys we have only go to the floor you stay on. Also they dont always work. Sometimes you have to close the door before you put your key in sometimes you have to have it open then do it. Very diffrent. When we finally got to our room it was super nice. This hotel was like a american hotel.

I started unpacking some of our things that we had I wanted to separate gifts from my things in my bags since they were all over. I bought shoes for marcelo since he wanted some cool shoes. When they came back to our room I gave them to Marcelo he was in love with them. I knew what he liked so that was good. I guess you learn a thing or two from being best friends with someone for a long time:) We hung out intel both of our babys were getting crabby and then we went down stairs to see if we could get something to drink. We went to the bar and got some sodas they were $3.00 for each one! Its because this is a upscale hotel we stayed in and pernight was over $ 150.00 thats alot for Ecuadorians. So the soda name was fanta! Yes we have Fanta here but this was diffrent I hated it. Rogelio and them liked it so it was all theres. I don't know how to decribe it but it was not good. After sodas we went up to our rooms to sleep. I was tired but up.

Rogelio and I stayed up and talked almost all night. It was like old times. I was so happy to see him and so were the boys. Rogelio was so happy to see us too! I love him so much and I couldent belive that we were finally together after all the time apart. We looked out the window together even though it was foggy it was still beautiful. Rogelio and I spent all night talking and thinking about what we were going to do in the morning. We were staying two nights out there then heading to Rogelios town two hours away.

The next morning We all got up and got ready. I took a shower and gave the kids a bath. I noticed they have a clothes line in the shower! I was like wow this is crazy! The water that we showerd with was so odd also. It was not the same as ours I did not like it. Even though I showerd it still felt like I was dirty in a way. We brushed our teeth with botteled water. I knew not to put the water in my mouth. Rogelio the kids and I went to my parents room and checked theres out it was nice and it had a view of the mall out side there window. Tony Roma's it said on the side of the mall. Wow I heard of that before. It's in America. We all desided to meet down stairs and go to the mall.

Rogelio, Antonio,Miguel,Mom,Dad,Marcelo,Carmen Danyella and I all went walking to the mall. There was a walk way that went on top of the freeway to the mall.

When we entered the mall it had fast food places all around. Kfc and Burger King was the two American Restorants. Don't let the names fool you it tasted nothing like kfc or burger king.

There was a man at the door with a gun he was there to protect the people in the mall.

We ate at a few diffrent places inside the food was pritty cheap.We walked around the mall and looked in some stores. Alot of the stores had things in them that were cheap in america and they were maked expensive there. Or they had off brand things and they were alot of money.

We saw a childrens store so we went in and bought some toys for the boys and For Danyella ( marcelo's Daughter)

After we left the mall we went back to the hotel. The way back there was a littal girl sitting on the path way asking if we wanted to buy some candy. We asked how much and she said .05 I was like wow thats cheap she had like 25 pcs so I took one candy and Antonio and Miguel took another and then we gave her 1.50 and she was so happy but then she tryed to give us back the money we told her no its ok. She ran to her mom and gave her the money all happy.

When we got back to the hotel a Van was waiting for us. We were going to see around the city. We drove for a while. Wow do cars drive diffrent from america. They are all over the roads people come up to your car and try to sell things and walk every were. People drive so crazy there. It's hard to explain how it was.

We got to the park and say the equinas ( yeah I can't spell) they were so cool up close and we could touch them and everything. I never seen them that big in my life! And they love bannnnnhaaaaaas!

After we got done there we went to this other place where it goes on for miles on the river you just walk and they have tuns of things to look at or eat and its just really cool. The rain was comming so we did get rained on a bit but it was nice since it was so hot out. We ate at this place that the food was ok it was hot dogs and frys We wanted to try it. lol We went in the bathroom and we had to pay for toilet paper! It was crazy .10 cents I think it was. We took a pic but i dont know where i put it. After we got back in the van we went to the hotel to dry off and get ready for the night time.

After we were ready I asked my parents if they could watch our boys well Rogelio,Marcelo and I went down to the casino. So they did we went there for less then a hour and lost $20.00 yeah the casino is about the same as in America but they still use change not tickets how we do here now for almost all of our casinos. It was really small but it was nice. I gave Marcelo I think $ 5.00 and he won like over $30.00 so he was so happy. Rogelio and I lost. we Went back up to the room and desided to get room service. We ordered food and let me tell you it was the best food!!!! It was so good. It was grilled meat with rice beans ( I did not eat the beans Rogelio ate mine) marinated shrimp and corn ( hard) it was my fav meal! Its sooooo good!. After we ate Marcelo needed meds so he walked to the pharmacy and got some. He took a long time so I called to the frount desk and asked where it was they said it was closed but if we need meds that they can open and have it to us in 45 mins I was like wow talk about full service! Great hotel we stayed at! I was very pleased!!I would give them 5 stars!! We stayed up that night too and talked and whatever lol:) The next day we were going to Rogelios city to see where he stays and meet our other family.

Intro...

My name is Jill. I am married to Rogelio, I have two sons with Rogelio that are 5 years old and almost 2 years old. Life was great here in the states we live in Minnesota. (U.S.A) In tell my husband Rogelio had to leave the country because he was not legal here. Even though we are married and have two children together, that still did not stop immigration from having him here.

He never came into the country with a visa. He just came here for a better life. At the time that he left Ecuador, Ecuador was a bad country there was a lot more crime then there is right now. There was a lot more things to worry about. He had found out that there was a better life in America. Also that you made more money here. So he came here. He had one last fling before he left Ecuador with a girl. ( her name not to be said) they were not dating at the time or anything they just had sexual relations. She became pregnant.

He left to the states and found out later that she was prego. He was not even sure if the kid was his but he would still act like he was. He kept in touch with the kid not the mother. The kid and the kids family sent pictures once every 5 years about. Rogelio sent money and sometimes gifts down there.


Rogelio and I meet when I was 18. I was married to another person at the time. The worst mistake in my life, yet I do not take anything back due to the fact if I would have changed anything I would not have two kids or be married to the man I love. When I got married for the first time to my ex it was rebelling mostly from my parents doing something I know that they would not approve of.

What can I say I was stupid and young. My ex and I about a month after we were married wanted a divorce I think that we both knew what we did was stupid but neather of us had the money for the divorce. So he saw other people and I started dating Rogelio. Rogelio and I moved in together not long after we first started dating. I was living with a friend at the time and was at Rogelio's house all the time anyway.

We starting living together I remember in August. It was so different having a place to call my own. It was fun and felt free. Rogelio and I could be together when ever and not anyone around to bother us. Rogelios brother Marcelo also lived with us. He was the reason that I meet Rogelio. I was good friends with Marcelo that's how I meet Rogelio.

I got pregnant on or around October 31st 2002. With our first son. We named our first son Antonio. We loved the name and also My brothers name being Anthony. We named him the Hispanic version of that. Antonio was born in July of 2003. I still remember that day.

The day Antonio was born and the day before was crazy! As a lot of people know Rogelio and I and our friends loved to go to the casino! Well the day before Antonio was born I was in the casino with Rogelio and some friends. We were their in tell 6am or 7am. When we were there I was having contractions but I was not sure what they were. It just hurt for a few seconds then it would go away. We left the casino and went to McDonalds for bredfix. I couldn't eat anything I ordered breadfix buritto. Rogelio ate it for me. We left McDonalds and went to walmart.

I had won at the casino $1000.00 but left with about $800.00 I spent about $600.00 at walmart buying things for our place and things we needed. In walmart I almost fell down, Rogelio grabbed me and I grabbed a leather chair that I was by. He said Jill are you ok? Maybe we should go home. I told him I was not a baby and that I was fine. Even though I was not.

Rogelio decided that we were going to check out and told me that I should be laying down. So we went home. When we got home Rogelio gave me a massage and took care of me. I was in some pain and he kept asking me if I wanted to go to the hospital. I told him no I will be fine. He made our friend Telmo (who lived with us at the time) drive him to work so we would have a car. Later I found out that he told Telmo to stay home all day and make sure that I was ok and just stay around to make sure I did not have the baby at home.

Telmo kept bugging me all day are you ok. You need anything. It got annoying at the time, but he was just looking out for me. I was in a lot of pain it was getting worst. Telmo said you need to go to the hospital lets go. I told him no I am going to call my doctor. So Telmo got me the phone and I called a Doctor....here to find out my Doctor was out of town! On Vacation!!!! I was mad even though it was 4-5 days before my due date. So the Doctor that I talked to was Dr.Gay. Yes Dr.Gay He told me to go in right away.

Me being me I was not going to go to the hospital with harry legs..I went in the bathroom and shaved!!! Telmo kept knocking on the door " what are you doing are you ok?" I kept saying yes I am just going to the bathroom. I did not want to tell him I was shaving my legs he would have been more scared. I got out of the bathroom and called Rogeilo on the phone. Rogelio said he would get a ride. I told him he was being silly and that we were going to pick him up. When I told Telmo what I said he was scared. Telmo did not want me to have the baby alone or by him. I thought It was funny that he was so scared at the time. We picked up Rogelio and then went to the hospital. Once we got in the room. Telmo was like bye see you later.

We called my mom and she came to the hospital. I wanted both my mom and Rogelio there. Rogelio held my hand the hole time! If he let go I would panic! Antonio was born about 13-14 hours after we had gotten to the hospital. Rogelio's eyes were sooooo big! He Kept a smile on his face even though it had been like two days without sleeping! He was so happy to child a son!!!

Our life changed when Rogelio was caught by immigration. I still remember. Antonio was just a baby. Telmo and Rogelio left around 6am to go fishing up north about 4 hours away. I had not heard from them all day.

I got the call I never thought I would have to face! Rogelio called me saying He had been caught by immigration and that they were on the way to jail. I thought that Rogelio was joking! I asked to talk to Telmo. He put me on the phone with Telmo and Telmo was almost crying I could hear it in his voice that he was not lieing. Rogelio talked to me and told me that the immigration officer let him use our cell phone to call me because he was nice.

As the story is Rogelio and Telmo went fishing up north they caught a lot of fish and Telmo did not have a fishing licence but Rogelio did. The DNR came and asked for the fishing licence Rogelio gave his and told him all the fish was his. DNR said you have over the limit fish. Told him that he was going to write a ticket to Rogelio, then asked are you guys American? They stupidly said no we are Ecuadorian. The DNR guy went back to his truck to what they thought was to write a ticket but he called immigration and immigration came and took them away. Rogelio still got the over the limit fishing for almost $600.00 fine.

Immigration took them to Duluth jail for holding Intel the morning when they would be transferred to blooming ton immigration. They told me I had to go get my car at the fishing spot or it would be towed. I talked to my father after crying my eyes out and almost dieing of sadness. He said that he would drive me up to my car.

I called all my friends and told them what happen I couldn't stop crying I thought I had lost Rogelio forever! When we got up there they wouldn't let us see him.

The next day I hired a lawyer and got a bails bond. My parents put up their house for the bail bond I payed $2800.00 for both boys to get out on a $10,000.00 a piece bond. Telmo was our best friend and We were not going to let him stay in there alone. That's why we got him out too.

As days months and years went on. That February Telmo got deported back to Ecuador. Rogelio had many stressful court dates and we had gotten married. We got married on June 1st 2005.
As everyone knows me and Rogelio used to not dress up at all. We got married in the clothes that we wanted to and it was comfortable. Very nice for us. No pressure. We still do want to have a party because we got married but because of immigration we cant.We cant yet because we pay out to much to our lawyer and immigration. One of these days we will have a party with family and friends.

I got pregnant with my 2nd son Miguel in April 2007. It was a happy day for Rogelio and I. I remember that day very well that I had Miguel. It was hot outside I had my sister in Law Jenny and My brother Tony. We were all outside I started not feeling well. Jenny and Tony went home and I went inside to lay down. My mother wanted me to call the doctor and ask him what he thought....by that time I was having contractions but they were not that bad.

My Doctor told me that I should come when the contractions were closer together. My contractions a few hours after were closer together but I did not want to go to the hospital. ( I am a stubborn person sometimes.) I wanted to wait for Rogelio to get off work. Rogelio got home about 12am and we left for the hospital we got there about 12:30am. The car ride there was the worst I was in a lot of pain by the time we left. ( I was supposed to be on bed rest but It was hard with Antonio to be on bed rest. Miguel had been sitting on a vain or something wrong and was very painful for me to walk and move from 8 months pregnant on.)

I had Miguel at 6:43 am I was so happy another boy! Rogelio told me that the nurse was trying to talk to him and he did not understand. I asked the nurse what she was saying and she said that my mom was in the waiting room waiting for me. Just before that I called my dad and told him Miguel was born he said that my mom was there so I thought that is what she was going to say.My mom came and saw Miguel took some oh so great pictures of me:) lol I was happy that she was there.

January 2008 Rogelio was granted voluntary departure. He was not able to stay here any longer. He left to Ecuador and has not been back since. It has been really hard here with out him. I never thought also that I would be here with out my husband the man I love with all my heart by my side and help raising our kids. its hard and it sucks!!

No one Would ever understand the feeling that you have to go threw all day. All the fears that you have to concor. All the things that you go threw how depressing they are how hard they are, even if things were eazyer before. Well now they are not. Things that were not that big of a deal before now are the largest! Hard things are hard to do with out your husband right there next to you doing it all with you. every things in a different view. Waking up with out him is the hardest. Going out of the house without him is harder. Life with out your other half is hard!!

In less you had the same thing happen to you. You will never know how it feels or how it is. You can say you know but reality is you really don't. So that's our story summed up.