Intro...

My name is Jill. I am married to Rogelio, I have two sons with Rogelio that are 5 years old and almost 2 years old. Life was great here in the states we live in Minnesota. (U.S.A) In tell my husband Rogelio had to leave the country because he was not legal here. Even though we are married and have two children together, that still did not stop immigration from having him here.

He never came into the country with a visa. He just came here for a better life. At the time that he left Ecuador, Ecuador was a bad country there was a lot more crime then there is right now. There was a lot more things to worry about. He had found out that there was a better life in America. Also that you made more money here. So he came here. He had one last fling before he left Ecuador with a girl. ( her name not to be said) they were not dating at the time or anything they just had sexual relations. She became pregnant.

He left to the states and found out later that she was prego. He was not even sure if the kid was his but he would still act like he was. He kept in touch with the kid not the mother. The kid and the kids family sent pictures once every 5 years about. Rogelio sent money and sometimes gifts down there.


Rogelio and I meet when I was 18. I was married to another person at the time. The worst mistake in my life, yet I do not take anything back due to the fact if I would have changed anything I would not have two kids or be married to the man I love. When I got married for the first time to my ex it was rebelling mostly from my parents doing something I know that they would not approve of.

What can I say I was stupid and young. My ex and I about a month after we were married wanted a divorce I think that we both knew what we did was stupid but neather of us had the money for the divorce. So he saw other people and I started dating Rogelio. Rogelio and I moved in together not long after we first started dating. I was living with a friend at the time and was at Rogelio's house all the time anyway.

We starting living together I remember in August. It was so different having a place to call my own. It was fun and felt free. Rogelio and I could be together when ever and not anyone around to bother us. Rogelios brother Marcelo also lived with us. He was the reason that I meet Rogelio. I was good friends with Marcelo that's how I meet Rogelio.

I got pregnant on or around October 31st 2002. With our first son. We named our first son Antonio. We loved the name and also My brothers name being Anthony. We named him the Hispanic version of that. Antonio was born in July of 2003. I still remember that day.

The day Antonio was born and the day before was crazy! As a lot of people know Rogelio and I and our friends loved to go to the casino! Well the day before Antonio was born I was in the casino with Rogelio and some friends. We were their in tell 6am or 7am. When we were there I was having contractions but I was not sure what they were. It just hurt for a few seconds then it would go away. We left the casino and went to McDonalds for bredfix. I couldn't eat anything I ordered breadfix buritto. Rogelio ate it for me. We left McDonalds and went to walmart.

I had won at the casino $1000.00 but left with about $800.00 I spent about $600.00 at walmart buying things for our place and things we needed. In walmart I almost fell down, Rogelio grabbed me and I grabbed a leather chair that I was by. He said Jill are you ok? Maybe we should go home. I told him I was not a baby and that I was fine. Even though I was not.

Rogelio decided that we were going to check out and told me that I should be laying down. So we went home. When we got home Rogelio gave me a massage and took care of me. I was in some pain and he kept asking me if I wanted to go to the hospital. I told him no I will be fine. He made our friend Telmo (who lived with us at the time) drive him to work so we would have a car. Later I found out that he told Telmo to stay home all day and make sure that I was ok and just stay around to make sure I did not have the baby at home.

Telmo kept bugging me all day are you ok. You need anything. It got annoying at the time, but he was just looking out for me. I was in a lot of pain it was getting worst. Telmo said you need to go to the hospital lets go. I told him no I am going to call my doctor. So Telmo got me the phone and I called a Doctor....here to find out my Doctor was out of town! On Vacation!!!! I was mad even though it was 4-5 days before my due date. So the Doctor that I talked to was Dr.Gay. Yes Dr.Gay He told me to go in right away.

Me being me I was not going to go to the hospital with harry legs..I went in the bathroom and shaved!!! Telmo kept knocking on the door " what are you doing are you ok?" I kept saying yes I am just going to the bathroom. I did not want to tell him I was shaving my legs he would have been more scared. I got out of the bathroom and called Rogeilo on the phone. Rogelio said he would get a ride. I told him he was being silly and that we were going to pick him up. When I told Telmo what I said he was scared. Telmo did not want me to have the baby alone or by him. I thought It was funny that he was so scared at the time. We picked up Rogelio and then went to the hospital. Once we got in the room. Telmo was like bye see you later.

We called my mom and she came to the hospital. I wanted both my mom and Rogelio there. Rogelio held my hand the hole time! If he let go I would panic! Antonio was born about 13-14 hours after we had gotten to the hospital. Rogelio's eyes were sooooo big! He Kept a smile on his face even though it had been like two days without sleeping! He was so happy to child a son!!!

Our life changed when Rogelio was caught by immigration. I still remember. Antonio was just a baby. Telmo and Rogelio left around 6am to go fishing up north about 4 hours away. I had not heard from them all day.

I got the call I never thought I would have to face! Rogelio called me saying He had been caught by immigration and that they were on the way to jail. I thought that Rogelio was joking! I asked to talk to Telmo. He put me on the phone with Telmo and Telmo was almost crying I could hear it in his voice that he was not lieing. Rogelio talked to me and told me that the immigration officer let him use our cell phone to call me because he was nice.

As the story is Rogelio and Telmo went fishing up north they caught a lot of fish and Telmo did not have a fishing licence but Rogelio did. The DNR came and asked for the fishing licence Rogelio gave his and told him all the fish was his. DNR said you have over the limit fish. Told him that he was going to write a ticket to Rogelio, then asked are you guys American? They stupidly said no we are Ecuadorian. The DNR guy went back to his truck to what they thought was to write a ticket but he called immigration and immigration came and took them away. Rogelio still got the over the limit fishing for almost $600.00 fine.

Immigration took them to Duluth jail for holding Intel the morning when they would be transferred to blooming ton immigration. They told me I had to go get my car at the fishing spot or it would be towed. I talked to my father after crying my eyes out and almost dieing of sadness. He said that he would drive me up to my car.

I called all my friends and told them what happen I couldn't stop crying I thought I had lost Rogelio forever! When we got up there they wouldn't let us see him.

The next day I hired a lawyer and got a bails bond. My parents put up their house for the bail bond I payed $2800.00 for both boys to get out on a $10,000.00 a piece bond. Telmo was our best friend and We were not going to let him stay in there alone. That's why we got him out too.

As days months and years went on. That February Telmo got deported back to Ecuador. Rogelio had many stressful court dates and we had gotten married. We got married on June 1st 2005.
As everyone knows me and Rogelio used to not dress up at all. We got married in the clothes that we wanted to and it was comfortable. Very nice for us. No pressure. We still do want to have a party because we got married but because of immigration we cant.We cant yet because we pay out to much to our lawyer and immigration. One of these days we will have a party with family and friends.

I got pregnant with my 2nd son Miguel in April 2007. It was a happy day for Rogelio and I. I remember that day very well that I had Miguel. It was hot outside I had my sister in Law Jenny and My brother Tony. We were all outside I started not feeling well. Jenny and Tony went home and I went inside to lay down. My mother wanted me to call the doctor and ask him what he thought....by that time I was having contractions but they were not that bad.

My Doctor told me that I should come when the contractions were closer together. My contractions a few hours after were closer together but I did not want to go to the hospital. ( I am a stubborn person sometimes.) I wanted to wait for Rogelio to get off work. Rogelio got home about 12am and we left for the hospital we got there about 12:30am. The car ride there was the worst I was in a lot of pain by the time we left. ( I was supposed to be on bed rest but It was hard with Antonio to be on bed rest. Miguel had been sitting on a vain or something wrong and was very painful for me to walk and move from 8 months pregnant on.)

I had Miguel at 6:43 am I was so happy another boy! Rogelio told me that the nurse was trying to talk to him and he did not understand. I asked the nurse what she was saying and she said that my mom was in the waiting room waiting for me. Just before that I called my dad and told him Miguel was born he said that my mom was there so I thought that is what she was going to say.My mom came and saw Miguel took some oh so great pictures of me:) lol I was happy that she was there.

January 2008 Rogelio was granted voluntary departure. He was not able to stay here any longer. He left to Ecuador and has not been back since. It has been really hard here with out him. I never thought also that I would be here with out my husband the man I love with all my heart by my side and help raising our kids. its hard and it sucks!!

No one Would ever understand the feeling that you have to go threw all day. All the fears that you have to concor. All the things that you go threw how depressing they are how hard they are, even if things were eazyer before. Well now they are not. Things that were not that big of a deal before now are the largest! Hard things are hard to do with out your husband right there next to you doing it all with you. every things in a different view. Waking up with out him is the hardest. Going out of the house without him is harder. Life with out your other half is hard!!

In less you had the same thing happen to you. You will never know how it feels or how it is. You can say you know but reality is you really don't. So that's our story summed up.